My father knows how frustrated I have been being locked down and waiting for my mother today.
It was supposed to be a freer day with nothing on the schedule, but I ended up having to pee her at 4:30 AM, and then wait from 8 AM until at least 2 PM (that’s not happened yet) for her to be ready to use the new stairlift and develop procedures for moving, showering and such upstairs.
I need to prep dinner at 4 PM, so that shot all day for me.
He thinks I should have negotiated with my mother so I could have gone out and come back at 2 PM.
When I tell him that my experience is that my mother can not or will not negotiate such things, but rather just just resists the pressure to be on a schedule, he says “Yeah, Yeah” and waves his hand dismissively to me.
“Have you been able to get her on a schedule?” I asked. “Do you know any tricks to make her agree?”
He is just stuck between me being frustrated on one side and her being her on the other side, and doesn’t want to be in the middle. He knows I am right, but I should fix it or not show my frustration.
And on that issue of my silence, he wants no negotiation.
